Once you admit to yourself that your mental health is deteriorating because of a toxic relationship, it will be a lot easier to let go. According to Forbes an average of 80% of Americans have experienced emotional abuse within a relationship. My mission is to lower this statistic and with the right tips and guidance, you will be able to remove yourself from a toxic relationship. No one deserves to be mistreated by their loved one. It’s 2021 for crying out loud stand up for yourself when you notice yourself being walked all over. Use your voice and use it loudly. Letting go of toxicity will open up so many more doors for amazing opportunities and successes.
Defining a Toxic Relationship
Toxic relationships are physically and emotionally draining. Most people don’t even recognize how toxic their own relationship can really be. I want us all to be on the same page when we are referring to a toxic relationship, so for this blog, we are going to go with Dr. Lillian Glass’s definition. Psychologist Glass defines a toxic relationship as “any relationship [between people who] don’t support each other, where there’s conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there’s competition, where there’s disrespect and a lack of cohesiveness.” Toxic relationships drag you down and cause disruptions in your everyday life. It is important to establish that you are physically in a toxic relationship before you begin to react. Keep reading to learn tips about leaving a toxic relationship! Empower yourself.
5 Tips to Get Out of a Toxic Relationship
Once you realize you are in a toxic relationship, utilize these steps to remove yourself! Seek help or guidance if your partner is physically abusing you.
- Step into Reality
- Many peers will realize your relationship is toxic before you do. If your relationship is toxic you must come to terms with that. You need to realize if you are being treated unfairly. Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. Your mental health matters and if you are in a toxic relationship you can’t love yourself. Realization is the first step to leaving a toxic relationship and environment.
- Confide in Trusted Friends and Family
- In a toxic relationship you feel isolated and like the world has turned against you. Your self-esteem becomes especially low. You question why the universe is out to get you when in reality you can remove yourself from the situation. Confiding in trusted friends and family about what you’re going through gives you a support system. It allows you to go through the break-up with people who actually care about you. Confide in family and friends once you have established that your relationship is toxic. They will help you remove yourself.
- Speak to Your Partner
- After coming up with a plan with trusted family and friends it’s important to react. Talk to your partner and tell them how you are truly feeling. Explain that you need time for yourself and either agree on a break or end the relationship. I know this is easier said than done, but remember that you must put yourself first. Your own mental health is more important than someone who consistently treats you like garbage.
- Work on Yourself
- It will be extremely hard to move on from your relationship right away. Being in a toxic relationship can be traumatic and overwhelming feelings can linger. You may still love this person, but you have come to terms that they aren’t good for you. Find a steady hobby and stick with it. Work out, eat healthy, practice self-care, the options are endless. Do things that will take your mind off this person. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family if you’re ever feeling lonely. Take time to recover and remember that there are better days ahead.
- Moving on won’t happen immediately for most. When you finally feel ready go out on a date. Encourage yourself to be more social and open to meeting new people. A toxic relationship may be traumatic, but there are always positives once you remove yourself. Loving yourself is the most important part of moving on. Read the blog https://soul-dogs-inc.org/mental-health-tips-how-to-love-yourself/ to learn tips on self-love.
Removing yourself from a toxic relationship is a very empowering experience. I am not saying it’s easy, because it’s not, but your self-esteem will skyrocket. You and your voice matter, make sure you are heard. Don’t let someone take advantage of you.